What are the signs of an adult who refuses to grow up? Do you think you would know them if you saw them? Or better yet, do you think that you would recognize them in yourself?
It is called the “Peter Pan Syndrome,” and it affects thousands of men over the age of 30 each year? Why is 30 the magic number? Because that is when most adults should have grown up and found their sh*t (and put it together).
What makes this situation truly devasting, is that most men suffering from this syndrome have no idea they have only grown in body and not in spirit or maturity. They have no idea that they fail at being a man by definition of just about every man card that has ever been forged.
And we’re not about to point any fingers, but hey you… Bounce by the Ounce, crazy guy!
And you two… house party guys.
Don’t you think it’s about time that you got your sh*t together? And this message may be extended to you, reader, if you resemble any of the following seven symptoms:
You Have a Girlfriend-Mommy
Just because you have sex with a girl, doesn’t mean that she isn’t acting as your designated mommy substitute. Most every Peter Pan has a Wendy in his life who allows him to shun his manhood by making decisions for him, offering excuses when he fails to launch outside of his parents basement, reminding him about appointments, doing his laundry, buying his underwear (aka. changing his diaper), and God knows what else. If you have a woman in your life who treats you like a child, well then we have got some bad news… you still are one.
You Feel ‘Entitled’ to Greatness
Some men are above starting from the bottom. Getting a real job, working hard until somebody notices, and then rising to the ranks of success. These guys feel entitled to all the great stuff that comes after hard work, and so they should be allowed to skip that part and rise straight to the mass respect, big boy parties, and bigger paydays. But that is not how good character is built. That is not how true success is achieved.
You’re a Master Complainer
There are actions in this world and then there are victims. The actions are the guys who refuse to settle for the word, no, to end with failure, and to allow the pie to pass without taking a big piece of it. The victims are the complainers of the world. They always seem to end up with the short stick, but they have never extended their arm to grab one of the longer pieces. If you think the world has sold you short… let’s get one thing straight my friend, and that is that you have sold yourself short. But it is never too late to grow up and fight for something you want.
You Don’t Know How to Do Anything
You can’t boil water, stitch a patch, change your oil, fight your own fights, or apologize when you’ve done wrong. You can’t really do anything, but I bet Wendy helps with quite a few of those shortcomings. You may think that you are pretty crafty because you can get other people to do things for you, but you are only hurting yourself because you are relying on them to make your life happen. And when you do that… guess what? Not much happens.
You Care What Other People Think (A Lot)
Being sensitive to the world as a gentleman is a good thing. This means that you are aware of your actions and care about how they affect others. But caring what other people think to the point that you base the majority of your decisions on the approval of other people, well that is never a good thing. Wake up, man. Do you want to live your own life, or live the life that someone else chooses for you? I hope you would rather live your own because if you don’t, you have just discovered that you may not be the man you probably thought that you were.
You Never Do Wrong
The only person who never does wrong is the person who either never does anything, or never accepts responsibility for the things they do. Your last relationship, your last job, the lack of owning a career, and the lack of money – all those bad things are your responsibility and nobody else’s. And you want to know why it is good to take responsibility for these bad things? Because it is an important reminder that you are the only one who can do something about making them good. And you can make them good if you roll up your sleeves and accept that you’re going to have to get a little dirty.
You Can’t Control Yourself
This goes along with not taking responsibility, but it throws in one more trait – and that is the inability to control even yourself. This is the guy who cheats on everything/everyone, drinks to the point of disrupting his life and work, and not only is he never responsible for his actions, but he seems unable to control this reckless behavior. Well, you’ve probably got a woman like Wendy and a warm cozy basement to fall back on… but if you’re getting tired of being held up by other people, all you’ve got to do is take control of this situation, which begins by first, taking control of yourself.
Feel free to pass this along to any of your friends in need. They are probably relying on you to make things right, after all, and this may be your chance to shovel out some hard love that they desperately need dumped upon them.