Approval Disorder – The Career Stagnator

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Some men live much of their lives on the sidelines, because they are afraid that if they act outside of the box, someone will disapprove. It is true that most everyone prefers to get approval from others, as this is something we are taught at a very young age. Even as infants we we learn how unpleasant it is when an adult scolds us for not following the rules.

The only problem is, as a man you are stifling your creativity and career by continuing to live by the rules for the approval of others.

The First Step: Learn to Say No to Approval
This means to take risks when it involves something you want. Live your life how you see yourself living it, and not how you want others to see you. I know there are some of you who are already doing this, but for those who aren’t; you will discover a whole world of possibilities once you do.

The Second Step: Forgive Your Mistakes and Give Yourself Permission to Succeed
Forgiving others can be tough, but forgiving yourself is actually a lot more difficult. Unfortunately, no matter how good you are, when you take risks you will eventually fall upon failure. In other words, along your path of action, you are going to make mistakes and suffer for them.

The important thing is to accept these small failures as a means to a worthwhile achievement. If you can’t accept your failure, you will lose sight of your path. You will become so afraid of rejection, you will find yourself back on the street jonesing for a hit of approval, and once that happens you’re career is already stifled.

The Final Step: Never be afraid to take a risk in your career because you’re afraid of being rejected. The reality is that rejection feeds off the success of trying, while fear is simply the result of failing to do anything unique.

About Dr. Eric J. Leech

Eric has written for over a decade. Then one day he created Urbasm.com, a site for every guy.



About Dr. Eric J. Leech

Eric has written for over a decade. Then one day he created Urbasm.com, a site for every guy.