How to Become a Better Man


Women are attracted to successful men riding the waves of success. He crashes down on her shore, and takes her on a whimsical journey of mystery, learning, and great sex. This is great, unless you happen to be one of the guys wading in the kiddie pool with floaters around his arms. These are the guys who lack purpose, confidence, and charisma. If you are having a difficult time establishing game in your dating relationships, check out these seven tips to help regain your ‘manimal’ magnetism!

Know Who You Are
A man without understanding of who he is, identifies himself by his profession. Having only his work to give him purpose, drives him to become a workaholic. Never allow yourself to expend so much energy at work, you have nothing left to give a woman. Look within yourself, and ask what you have to offer. Show her a man that she can count on, and she won’t be showing you the door.

Take Interest in Women
A man’s worth is calculated by his relevance, purpose, and impact. From the time a man is born, he is told he must be good at sports, academics, and his job. When a man frees himself from this self-focus, he can concentrate on what a woman needs. Women receive little pleasure from your own value and success, other than the bragging rights, which wears off quickly. It is more productive to be the driving force behind your woman’s happiness, which is easily accomplished by listening, encouraging, and inspiring.

Listen, Understand, and Repeat
Some men lead, others follow, and a good portion walk alone. Men spend a lot of time combating loneliness, isolation, and rejection. Many men are unable to access the tender spots of their heart without a woman’s guidance. There is a feminine dimension to every man, but to discover it, you must understand how women communicate. She doesn’t want to hear your advice; she only wants to know that you understand, and empathize with her situation. The key to a successful relationship is to listen, understand, and repeat!

Nix Your bad Habits
A man needs to focus on the good in his relationships to understand their value. He creates distance and disappointment if he chooses to brood over unimportant details, such as past relationships, current friends, and uncommon interests. However, sometimes a man must look for his own worst habits. Criticizing, lying, threatening, and bribing will destroy the trust, intimacy, and security of any relationship. It doesn’t take much effort to be a man if you’re honest with yourself about what you need.

KISS Her, You Fool
The one thing that almost any man could never do wrong, is a true, heartfelt kiss. A kiss can end arguments, increase understanding, promote better communication, and will leave your partner itching for other physical activities (hint–hint). A quarter of all men in United States claim they are dissatisfied with the amount of sex they are getting from their partner, but rather than complaining about their lack of it, they should be focusing on its potent prelude… the kiss!

Disagree with Finesse
There is an etiquette to arguing, which includes starting and ending each disagreement on a positive note. Use the word “I,” instead of “you” (as in, I don’t like when you nag me about the things I need to do, in contrast to, You are a heartless bitch). Focus on listening to your partner, and understanding what she needs, rather than winning the argument. The only way to come out ahead of any disagreement is to compromise (you give a little, and so does she).

Watch Your Apple Tree
Research suggests that the majority of women who cheat, do so because they feel like their man is cheating. Mind you, this does not always mean you’re stepping out. In a woman’s mind, this can mean you’re working too much, not spending enough time, or not satisfying her needs (intimacy, sex, etc.). Never let bad feelings harbor. Ask what’s wrong, and then what you can do to make it better.

About Dr. Eric J. Leech

Eric has written for over a decade. Then one day he created Urbasm.com, a site for every guy.





About Dr. Eric J. Leech

Eric has written for over a decade. Then one day he created Urbasm.com, a site for every guy.