Communication and body language are the most important tools when trying to get what you want from a woman. Your words become a mental representation of your goals, values, and interests. Your motions suggest your interest, sincerity, and intention. When dating, people look at each other’s subtle cues, using them to decide their own course of action. Men who understand how to use cues, can create an atmosphere conducive to what he is after. Believe it or not, all men have some control over initiating the feelings of love, lust, agreement, incompatibility, investment, commitment, reinforcement, punishment, threat, and security in women, and it all relies on the way you use our words and body language. Here’s how it is done:
Love Vs. Lust
According to research, a man can persuade any meaning behind his relationship, based on his line of questioning during the introduction stages of dating. Women think in terms of love when they are reminded of abstract emotions and future events. Questions such as, What do you want out of life? What are your goals? Who do you see yourself with? These questions stimulate the part of the brain that deals with the abstract of love. In order to boost a woman’s lust factor, a different set of questions must be used, calling on her experiences, fears, and sensations. These questions will sound more like, What is your favorite romantic movie? What is your biggest fear? What is the most exciting thing you’ve ever done?
Agreement Vs. Incompatibility
To initiate an agreeable nature with a woman, a sense of compatibility must be felt. To do this, several needs must be met. One, any question you ask must be asked politely. Approach the woman casually, offer a warm greeting, and request a short meeting to get to know her better. Two, suggest a safe, public place. This will ease any tension of meeting you for the first time. Three, maintain a humble confidence that you know what she needs. Studies suggest, men who appear physically appealing (clean, well dressed), safe, warm, and confident, are much more likely to receive the answer, yes, to just about any question, including those of a sexual nature.
Investment Vs. Commitment
We unknowingly create commitment, based on the way we view the ‘give and take’ of a relationship. When you give, you create a sense of investment, value, and loyalty. This is only if the gift is accepted. With this in mind, it becomes important to accept gifts from women if you want them to feel attached. To strengthen this bond, the taker must give something back (gift, favor, etc.). If you wonder how to create commitment from a woman who will not accept anything from you, research suggests you should first offer something, then politely ask for a favor in return. A woman will be more than likely to accept your gift, if she is allowed to pay off the debt immediately. This is a sly way to encourage commitment from the women who are resisting you.
Reinforcement Vs. Punishment
We reinforce behavior based on our encouragement. If you smile or laugh at certain topics while chatting with a woman, you increase the likelihood those topics will be brought up again. If you express gratitude during acts of kindness, you encourage the likelihood of that reoccurring. There is, however, a negative side to this effect. If you allow an angry outburst or act of jealousy to get your attention, you will increase the likelihood of those types of behaviors happening from a woman. To counter this, it may be necessary to punish certain actions, giving women negative feedback in the form of a neutral expression or a loss of attention.
Threat Vs. Security
A common reaction during first dates, is to act overly excited about interests and ideas. While a man may think he is creating compatibility, he is actually creating a wedge by exhibiting threatening behavior. A woman feels compatible with a man when she feels secure. She feels safest with a man when moves slowly, use small gestures, controls the pitch of his voice, and maintain a reasonable distance from her personal space. This is only in the beginning, as once a woman shows signs of becoming comfortable (relaxed shoulders, smile, mimicking your motions), you can allow some of your natural excitement to show through. This is also the best time to ask a question in which you would prefer the answer to be, yes.
And above all, don’t forget to always be a gentleman.
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