What happens if you’re a guy who is addicted to a woman’s approval–before even approaching her? You’re going to get shut down is what’s going to happen.
Think about how you see yourself when meeting a woman for the first time. If you worry about her liking you (approving of who you are), then you are among the 99 percent of men who do. And it is not entirely a bad thing to care about what women think. But when you depend on it to feel worthy, then you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of failure.
A man will never find success with women by fearing rejection, and a big part of that is having the overabundant desire for their approval. Here’s the deal, if a woman does not know you, how can you expect immediate approval? While men will know if they want a woman within the first few seconds of a first meeting, women often take a bit longer with their decision.
Nobody can tell you who you are, or what you’re worth. You are not responsible for the attitudes, and opinion’s that other women have of you. It is good to want a woman to like you, but you should not use this success rate to guide your efforts. So, how can you overcome dating approval addiction? By helping yourself trigger the right kind of dialogue in your mind, every time you are faced with the notion of rejection when approaching a women for the first time.
The Power of Positive Thinking
It can be difficult to change your thinking when you’ve spent your lifetime needing the approval of the women you meet. However, it may be easier than you think. Every time, you run into a situation where you fear a woman may not approve, repeat this phrase in your mind:
I am responsible for myself to be the best man I can be. I hope most women like me. However, if they don’t, it is not my problem. Their opinion will not affect my own, or that of others.
And here are a few additional thoughts to add to your positive dialogue arsenal:
- I will live my life how I choose.
- I do not need to be a woman pleaser.
- It is okay to take a risk when it is something I want.
- I am not afraid to tell a woman what I really think (unless it will be hurtful to her).
- I will actively pursue the women who interest me, and avoid the ones who don’t (no matter how easy she is to get).
- It is okay for women to disagree with my lifestyle or values.
- I am not worried about what other women think.
- I am more afraid of fear, then I am of rejection.
Remember, any rejection you receive will come from the success of trying; while the fear of rejection comes from the failure to do anything!