How to Introduce Your Girl to Kinky Sex

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Sometimes a beautiful woman does not always know what she wants. Taking charge may be the only way to introduce her to pleasures she has never considered. However, just dropping in bed one evening with a whip and box of gerbils is not highly recommended. Here are a few ways to get a girl interested in kinky sex by following a few tried and true rules.

  • Tell Her When it’s Going to Happen– There is nothing sexier than a partner who wants it right then and there. However, scheduling kinky sex allows your partner to get acquainted with the idea, which will help things go a lot smoother.
  • Tell Her How it’s Going to Go– Men need to tell women what they want in bed, otherwise you will probably never get it. This is especially true with kinky fantasies. The key is to minimize any overt surprises, so she’ll be prepared to think outside of the box.
  • Control the Action– There are few things that turn a woman off as much as a man who is void of confidence and action. Taking control in the bedroom is not rude, so long as you have your partners best interest at heart and she trusts you. Don’t wait for her to take the reins after you have described a fantasy—it’s your fantasy after all.
  • Limit Her Participation– One of the universal turn-ons to women across the globe is S&M, and in this case, I am speaking about tying her up and limiting her ability to please you. All the focus will be on her, which may not be the fantasy you had in mind. Never-the-less, it is a great icebreaker, and if you do it right, it may open the door to a lot more experimentation.

The key to getting a girl interested in kinky sex is to get her past the whole idea that it is “kinky.” In fact, don’t even use that word, as it may actually set you back a few steps. Sex comes in a lot of different flavors. However, if you make yours taste good (i.e. fun, not stressful or painful), she’ll be back for seconds and then… wink-wink.

About Dr. Eric J. Leech

Eric has written for over a decade. Then one day he created Urbasm.com, a site for every guy.





About Dr. Eric J. Leech

Eric has written for over a decade. Then one day he created Urbasm.com, a site for every guy.